Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

I'd like to get some help from you folks. My son spent the night with me last night when he was supposed to be with his mom. I assume she had something else to do because our daughter went skating, and she brought our son to me on her night. Anyway, this morning he asked me to take him to his grandmothers house instead of his moms on my way to work. Grandma lives less than a mile from his mom. So I did. He said he's text his mom.

She texted me this morning at work..."where is son? He said you would bring him over here on your way to work."

I texted back "That's what I was gonna do. He asked me to take him to his grandmothers. He said he'd text you."

So I get this back from her..."you need to communicate to me about these kids like I do you and not through them. Don't you realize this was one reason for the failure of our marriage...the way you communicated. If it's my time to have them and I'm willing to let them stay with you then you need to bring them here and not take them somewhere else. That's working together. If you're not willing to do that then neither will I. Your choice."

So, there's at least been some dialogue recently. Coach and others have helped me with some of this dialogue. I have no expectations. I just want to respond with validation, strength, and compassion, etc.. I need some help responding to this last text of hers.


thanks