Getting Ready For Divorce

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Yesterday, wife took D15 "to the mall". S13 stayed with me. We had a great day until about 6 pm.

"I want to go to the Y" (the health club) says son.

My heart jumped. He has a membership but has never been to the club. I don't have a membership at all, and was not invited to get one.

I asked him if he knew where his mom was.

"She's at the mall with [sister]"

Before I let him get out of the car I prowled the parking lot. Wife's car wasn't there, though that doesn't mean she wasn't. Wife goes to the health club at odd hours and has been seen with a male friend. I was very careful but asked if son was aware that mom was probably not at the mall with his sister.

Son blushed and admitted that "sometimes mom says she's going one place but really leaves for a few hours".

When I picked him up he told me his mother sent him a flurry of text messages once she found out I dropped him at the health club. She probably thought I was trying to set her up to be discovered by our little boy. I think he knows more than he lets on anyway about her extramarital activities.

Son and I ate together again tonight. It was such a great evening. After I put him to bed, a friend from Toronto called. Wife and daughter got home very late, and I was still on the phone.

It's liberating to find a support system, to forge better bonds with the kids, to simply let go of the baggage I've carried for so long.