I'd like to give you an insight into the mlcer and the ow w/marriage. My xh married his "exit" affair partner. When I met her in 2000, she was slim, but not model slim, just average, hair was well kept, etc. Recently I caught a photo of her on the net and trust me, she'll never see 110 again. She is grossly over weight, hair has thinned out, she's had her hair cut in a style that I use to wear, glasses, exactly like the ones I use to wear a long time ago.
As for the xh, he is obese, not just grossly over weight, but obese, looks tired and sad, not one sparkle in the eyes and is constantly on the net. Continues to cry "poor me" to me when he touches down to earth periodically and plays the happy camper to all of his new friends. Oh, he still lies about everything.
There are several things they have in common: drinking, partying and the internet.
This is their happiness in life. They aren't functioning in the real world...they escape to fantasy island as soon as they can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
