Honey, be kind to yourself. Fear of losing a house is the scariest thing - perhaps scarier than losing a spouse! lol - at least you've been through that one, right? You definitely should vent here - and everywhere! But not at H. Things are too delicate right now with his recent return. You are completely valid in feeling anger towards him for leaving, spending money. But you cannot change what happened. What's done is done. Fighting will put a solid wedge between you. I know you feel he's getting away with quite a bit. I know. We all know. We all feel that way. Imagine I'm scraping by and wondering if I am going to lose the house I raise my son in, and H is buying an airplane? F***er! But I have no control. I can only take care of my life one step at a time. And vent to all of us. We listen and we care and we understand. This is the hard stuff. If you really feel you are going to lose it at H, remember your feelings are justified, but acting on them now will rock the boat. Take time away from him if you are feeling heated. Ignore him if you must. anything to not turn it into a fight between you two.
