I agree, I don't think I will ever get either. I have just accepted that I will not have the type of closure I wanted from ex, but I have to make my own closure.
The MLC situation is pretty insane, it does not make a whole lot of sense. I spent so much time trying to fit it into some sort of logic.... it did not work. It still does not.
I wonder how the OW can even function. I truly believe as time goes on and they see our prince charmings as the true men they are, some type of guilt has to set in and cause life long damage.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11