No, he won't back down, at least not easily. Truth be told, 99% of the work and improvements on the house were his initiative. I helped out all along the way, but it was his vision that we did together. So, he will fight long and hard.
And the damn timberframe woodshop we built--specifically to house his father's tools, and give X a place to woodwork. That damn thing is his main love and desire for the house. And it was built by a friend whom I first found and fostered the friendship--grrrr...And the friend is still mine, of course. X really has no friends left--but I don't know if he knows that yet.
I will fight,too. It is really a matter of who feels like enough $ has been poured into the battle first, and calls it quits. On the advice of my lawyer, I am trying to "put a dollar value on my desires, as that will drive my strategy."
It is a horrible horrible feeling to be forced to think: well, for 80K I can walk away....or whatever the blood money price becomes. As if there is a dollar amount that can be put on the incredible pain I have gone through.
I guess you could add up: therapy; kleenex; new clothes for lost weight (which is a good thing!) vodka; extra miles driven to find new friends and new activities.
The only fixing up I did was paint the kitchen. Remodeling the kitchen and bath was the next big project. But really, the paint job on it's own makes putting off any remodeling for the next decade quite bearable.
Anyhow, I am trying to cover all bases: meeting with lawyer to plan strategy meeting with financial advisor to see where I stand money wise getting pre-approved to re-fi this house, or buy another looking at other houses, as much as that hurts working with friends and counselors to learn to accept moving out if it comes to that
Interesting take, Talia, on lack of ballage--if X couldn't meet me at the theatre... what else does he lack the cojones to do?
This is so so awful. Well, with all of you, I will get through this, too.
I was thinking Cutterbug and I should move over to Surviving the big D...what do you say, CB?
