Do you want custody of your D, even half? Or are you planning to just let your W take her away from you?
Not at all. I am planning on either getting full custody or keeping things exactly the way they are...which in my state is called "Primary Custody". I wont go for or accept in mediation anything less.
Until my ex left she really didnt act like she wanted ot be a mother. She would go out after work to drink/party and then sleep until 1PM and then get up, spend a few minutes with D3, then go to work. For the past two years I've gotten D3 up and dressed, fed her breakfast, lunch, dinner, brushed her teeth and got her ready for/in bed. Even now I do all that except lunch most days and on Friday nights when my ex has her.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
Plus if you don't start dealing with your anger issues with you W, you will be putting her down and hating her in front of your D and that will mess her up. Let me make this clear...your W will forever be in your life because of your D. What have you done to deal with that?
What ever happened to you trying to be codependent no more?
I dont have a problem with my ex being in my life forever. It's not like I would have to see her for any other reason than medical/school things dealing with D3. She and OM can ride off into the sunset for all I care, as long as D3 remains primarily with me.
But in a way I feel bad for my ex now that these custody proceedings have started. If she isnt willing to keep things as they are at the very least...this is going to get very ugly. I dont want it to be like that...but if it comes to me losing custody of D3 or my ex facing legal consequences of some things, D3's living with me will win out.
I wish there was a way I could get her to call her L and drop the custody suit before things do get ugly...but I dont think thats possible. Anything I say to her now will just go in the ammo pile...which sucks for her.
