the word is out

[courageous wife]

Wow! Lots to absorb! I am wishing I would have read more about MLC in the beginning of this sitch...

I am "dropping the rope". I am letting go! I am going to call my L on Monday and tell her that we don't have to ask for H to do any counseling.

I have decided to not write an anonymous letter to OW's family.

I think OP is right in that the kids are old enough that they are going to figure out about the OW all on their own.

I am stepping back...no more rescuing, no more controlling behaviors, no more...

I am still worried about how I should act tomorrow when H gets here. I have been friendly, welcoming and helpful when H has stopped by in the past. I think I need to be how you are when a salesperson comes to your door trying to sell you something that you don't want! Polite but uniterested? Strong and confident and dignified.

The hardest part is going to be the conversation with the kids. I read that it is best to not show your emotions and I am not sure that I will be able to hold back. It will depend on how the kids do with the news.

Guys, wish me luck in handling myself and if you have anything to add, please do!