My Story...grass is greener (pt 2)

[MrBond]

Amen to what CityGirl said.

I don't care how you justify what YOU want. What YOUR needs are. Hell we all want great relationships. No one should go through the crap we go through with our spouses.

If you actually read my post, it was about YOUR D. While you and your W are taking care of your own selfish needs. And it is selfish. Who is satisfying your D's needs?

To clarify...it's not selfish for you to want someone who loves and respects you. What is selfish is that you are putting your needs BEFORE your D's. You never did answer the question. Do you want custody of your D, even half? Or are you planning to just let your W take her away from you?

If you don't care for or love your D, that's not a problem. But if you do, then start stabilizing HER life first and then take care of your needs. Right now the best way to stabilize her life is to stabilize yours. To show her that if you don't have a woman in your life that you're not going to be a big psychological mess.

Plus if you don't start dealing with your anger issues with you W, you will be putting her down and hating her in front of your D and that will mess her up. Let me make this clear...your W will forever be in your life because of your D. What have you done to deal with that?

What ever happened to you trying to be codependent no more?