So R2C gave me some advice to DB the inlaws -- need more input on this! They know the sitch, but I don't know what H has told them about it. MIL supports giving H space but hopes for reconciliation. BIL probably thinks H "deserves to be happy". They all live 1000s of km away.
1. my MIL (who I've called twice since the S, just to keep things friendly but didn't discuss H or the sitch in detail at all) wants to come to visit in June and go on a trip with FIL, the children and me...how to respond??
2. more importantly, H's brother is coming to town in a week. BIL has been a confidant to H, and probably encouraged H to separate. BIL is much younger than H, and very self-centered...never has really committed to a R. BIL will be staying with H for 2 weeks and the kids do love him -- they will be seeing him a lot. BIL may have plans for H, like getting him laid or something along those lines. Probably sees himself as a cheerleader for H "getting on with his life". He's coming to support H, but what that would look like is scary to me.
How to deal with these people?? I have good Rs with them, but now it feels like playing with fire to interact with them at all.
Last edited by flowmom; 02/21/1012:24 AM.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
