Thanks for the tips on finding a good counsellor. My wife has agreed to see a new MC. She has told me I need to find one and schedule first appointment for us, "do the work" she says,seems odd?? And yes, she says she is sticking with NC, but I dont believe it. The last email (dec,2009) that I obtained indicated they were still waiting for better timing to leave their respective spouses. In fact he made an "Obama reference" about my wife giving me false "hope" for our marriage. She later found my copy of the email and she went ballistic on me spying on her...telling me I will never get over it. Our 15yr old son is depressed about the situation at home... He has asked me what is going on that we always fight...Should I tell our son about his mothers infidelity at the same time I expose the affair to OP's wife ??? I think he might know just from listening to our outbursts. He has told other family members that "he wishes we would just get divorced" This whole thing is bull, our family has been ripped apart by the choices of a few.. Thanks for listening.
