Today, W called because she needed help finding her way around town to take S13 to his band clinic. She stayed on the phone and tried to make some small talk. I gave her some basic directions, and then said I needed to go. She then sent me several nice texts thanking me. This from ms.hostility.
Her lawyer has not responded to my L's phone call, or acknowledged receipt of our answer and counter claim to W's filing. I'm just wondering who is dragging their feet here.
Most likely it's the lawyers.
M:42|W:40|D:17|S:13|Bomb:10/23/09 Awoken's Current Thread
Is that her responding to consequences, or still sucking up to you and hoping that you don't nail her for her atrocious parenting?
I hope that the al-anon meeting goes well tomorrow. I hope that helps you to put all this into perspective...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I hope that the al-anon meeting goes well tomorrow. I hope that helps you to put all this into perspective...
I had to miss the al-anon meeting this morning
I took D17 to get her driver's license. The only appointment I could get this morning. Thankfully, she passed. It's scary how easy the road test is!
We went to lunch to celebrate. It was wonderful. We talked for a couple of hours about everything in her life. I know its often mentioned as one of the positives about our sitches, but it's true that I'm growing closer to my kids each day.
It's tough, but we are gonna be ok.
I'll go to the very next al-anon meeting.
M:42|W:40|D:17|S:13|Bomb:10/23/09 Awoken's Current Thread
For whatever reason, I'm handling today's stress pretty well.
stbxw is out for the day and sleeping somewhere else tonight. I presume it's OM. I get to spend the day and night with my kids.
It's sad letting go this way. In some weird way, I'm missing that part of me that was so attached to W. This can't be very good DB'ing.
I read several old threads this afternoon, before making this post. In particular I read all 32 pages of Serenity's first thread. Somewhere in there, Puppy said something like "you'll know your done when you reach disgust". I do feel disgusted with W and her selfish choices. I'm wondering now if I'm done with this.
Good thing I don't have to make any choices right now. I can wait, and pray for clarity.
M:42|W:40|D:17|S:13|Bomb:10/23/09 Awoken's Current Thread
I was just about to run over to your thread to post about my afternoon with D17, when I saw your post here.
Today, while my daughter dazzled me with her thoughts about everything, and her openness to tell me her deepest thoughts, I thought briefly about you and your worries about time with your kids post D. You know we both share the same worries.
It occurred to me that this one lunch with my daughter, and our bonding over it, is something we will both never forget. Regardless of what happens in the future, D17 and I will have many more moments like this to treasure. Somehow, I a little less concerned about losing my day to day contact with D17 and S13.
M:42|W:40|D:17|S:13|Bomb:10/23/09 Awoken's Current Thread
Awoken, it sounds like the time that you had with your D was lovely. It must have been really special for her to have you celebrating that milestone with her.
I'm glad you're letting go of mind-reading your W.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Awoken, I am very happy for you and your daughter!
Originally Posted By: Awoken
We went to lunch to celebrate. It was wonderful. We talked for a couple of hours about everything in her life
Originally Posted By: Awoken
It occurred to me that this one lunch with my daughter, and our bonding over it, is something we will both never forget. Regardless of what happens in the future, D17 and I will have many more moments like this to treasure. Somehow, I a little less concerned about losing my day to day contact with D17 and S13.
Originally Posted By: Awoken
It's tough, but we are gonna be ok
Remember my post to you when S13 finally opened up to you earlier this month? The one about my "Adirondack Chair Moment" with my Son at my apartment back when he was 13?
Originally Posted By: Gardener
"You will be alright! I will be alright! You and I will be alright. Always."
May you, too, have the joy of Son and Daughter suddenly recounting these special moments with you years from now like I had recently! Good job, Dad.
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Gardener
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