Well I found a way to trust but verify. I asked her how her mom was. She said, I don't know I haven't talked to her in a while. I said, I thought you said you talked to her today at lunch? She replied, no, I tried to call her but I was talking with my girlfriend. When she was in the shower, I took a look at her phone and it was in fact as she had stated.
On a different note, she had her first counseling session. She reported to me that her counselor told her she didn't need counseling as it seemed she knew what she wanted and that if I didn't trust her as I've already stated then it wouldn't work. My wife went on to say that she thought I would leave her later on anyway. I asked how she figured that since I let her move back in. She replied, well our money is seperate and I figure that you'd put your money where your mouth is if you really wanted this to work. LOL, yeah, ok.
I guess this goes to the old saying that you train people to treat you how you want them to. If you are passive and don't tell them how you feel(the old me)they will assume their words and actions are ok. I have bit my tounge a few times but have spoken out when I thought it was appropriate.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!