I have no intention of accosting him as soon as he gets home. That's why I am going to leave him a note (as opposed to the novel previously written) when I leave for my vacation. We will be in the same house for four days between him getting home and me leaving. I'm not going to make that time difficult for myself - I want to be relaxed and ready to have fun in Las Vegas, not grouchy because I've been rubbed the wrong way beforehand.
He contacts the OW every day. I have the detailed phone bills that show the calls and texts. The bad feelings don't go away.
I don't expect him to be perfect.
If love is a feeling then I don't love my children approximately five days out of every week. On those days I want nothing to do with the little monsters and I only feed, clothe, change, and interact with them because I am committed to them as their mother. Many times there is nothing enjoyable about raising them. So I believe I meant something more like "love is an action" rather than "love is a commitment."
New possible note for him when I leave -
I hope you have a good break while the kids and I are gone. Enjoy the peace and quiet if you can!
I appreciate all the things you do to take care of us as a family. And I’m hoping that means you’ll be willing to go to marriage counseling with me after I get home. You are still my best friend and I want to be happy with you, and the kids to grow up happily with both of us.
The only problem with that ^^^ being he never has been my best friend. I figured that out when the short-lived honeymoon period ended.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
