I was kinda reading thru the MLC thread and am wondering if that is partly why my DB efforts have failed?
If by failing you mean that you are not remarried yet then the answer is YES. MLC is not something that you can fix. There are no magic buttons or tricks. LRT does work for MLC but it is to protect you not to fix your marriage.
The short formula is MLC = depression + unresolved childhood issues. Add in a traumatic experience (death in the family,sickness, money issues) and poof you have a MLC.
You should read the MLC resources. If you need links just ask me and I will give them to you.
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H go to counseling.
I am not sure that this is an idea that will do any good. I was in IC/MC for 7 months and all it did was validate my W desire to get a D. For MC to work both parties need to buy into the idea. Unless you are at that stage I wouldn't waste my time or money.
As far as moving your thread that is up to you. We do things a little bit differently on that board. J3B has a new thread that started yesterday with some MLC questions on it. You should read that.
