First meeting w/ WAW, I'm shaky need encouragement

[SweetCyborg]

Thanks for all the quick responses. Even some tough love there (Kimmie) that seems uncharacteristic of others in the forums I've been pouring over. Yes, maybe I do have a rescue complex, but I also LOVE this difficult woman. We had lots of fun before she had the A, and I really put as much into MC as I could and occasionally I thought she was to, but always felt that she would be forced to wear the scarlet letter forever, (and i didn't make it easy by not fully forgiving but we've only been working for about a year).

I always wanted her to make changes (be more giving, initiate sex, or do spontaneous favors for me). She's always been called a princess by family, me, so I probably created that monster.

Over the last months b/w a few fights, or flashbacks I had about the past, went hiking, went to MExico, had a nice holiday, bought a new big TV) etc. I did not pick up on the signals that she was really not so happy.

She would come home stressed, tired, mopey, and I would be the cheerleader. It's not always easy to keep that up especilly if you keep hoping for a little back.

I will listen, be quiet, look good, validate her feelings, not react. I'm moving on, no matter what happens.