She will not care at all about you telling her, in her mind it will be just another cheap attempt at making an excuse for why you are the way you are and give her more confidence that the decision she is making is valid.
Just take care of it for yourself, telling her will do nothing, she will say Im glad you are getting the help you need, and in her mind she will be saying, good lord, I'm glad Im getting away from all that drama.
Just take care of it yourself for yourself, if you are doing it for yourself, she does not need to know about it. She will find out about it, and she will like it when she knows it is not manipulation to get her back.
I use to tell my wife everything I did for her, If I washed the car for her, I wanted to tell her so she could appreciate it. I learned that doing things for her is the right thing to do, not at trick to get me brownie points. Now when I wash the car for her and then she finds the car clean, she is much more appreciative. Do you get where Im going with all this.
Do it because it is the right thing to do, do not help yourself for the sole purpose of telling her Im going to fix myself so you can love me again. Because that is the only reason you will be telling her.
