I have been thinking about your sich, I will say that possibly your H deploying on 4/30/10 may work to your advantage. If you can stay dark, I know he is moving in the house, but I think if you can do this maybe he will not follow through with the D. Remember that he is depressed and that it may be difficult for him to carry out these plans. I see on your other thread that your DB session went well. Do you care to share any of their words of wisdom? Maybe we can all learn something.