Hi l.t.- I know exactly the frustration you are feeling. From personal experience, pushing to get answers only backfires...at least initially. I did set a deadline for my H and while it initially backfired, it appears now that my ultimatum was helpful in moving him forward...but only time will tell how helpful.
HeartsBlessing posted something about cake-eating on ThisCan'tBTheEnd's thread and I quoted part of it on my thread. She talks about boundaries and ultimatums. I agree with her that each situation is different and the LBS has to determine when the time is right to set boundaries and give ultimatums. As long as you are willing to follow through and accept the outcome whatever it may be, then these LRTs are something to consider.
If you can, continue to focus and you and your kids. If the cake-eating gets to be too much, I say follow your instincts .
