Also, get the sense that maybe H is afraid to try to reconcile due to the way the whole sitch has spiraled out of control. Fidelity / faithfulness was deal breaker for H. H. keeps saying I think he's a scumbag, ruined my life, etc, etc. Keep saying I don't think those things, just think he has made some poor decisions the last 6 months. But I'm not saying anything about salvaging / rebuilding. I voiced that to him numerous times, so he knows.
