First meeting w/ WAW, I'm shaky need encouragement

[The Wifey]

Be brief, noncommittal and don't react to provacation. It will be the hardest part of the meeting. Just listen. If she tries to get a response you tell her you have been listening and need time to digest it. You don't know how you feel right now.

Validate if she gives you reasons - even if they are way off base. Learn the validation phrases, "I can see how that would make you feel that way, I see, I understand, I'm sorry you feel that way, ok, I can see, etc." Nothing committal.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

This is sad, but you are in the right place for support.