I know what you are going through on almost all levels, including a very sick father. I'm experiencing the very same things with H - the only difference is the physical aspect. I have no words of advice but just wanted to lend some support. Hang in there!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz