Thanks OP-I have read your posts to others and appreciate your input here! I was awake half the night trying out different convo's in my head and couldn't come up with any that didn't sound whiney or desperate. So, will do as you so and just tell him if this is what you really want...

I believe that it takes 6mos for it to be final.

OP-how do you feel on telling the kids the truth about the OW?

M48 H53
M16 T18
S16 D13
SS30
H drops bomb PA/8-30-09
H leaves 12-30-09
D filed by H 2-10
H asks to come home 4-11
Piecing