how do i keep my hope alive?

[trytryagain]

it's moving day...i'm looking forward to being in a new space, one that doesn't remind me so much of sitting around in "our" apartment with "our" things, but at the same time, anxious.

had a really nice dinner "date" with my H last night. he came to pick me up and we really didn't talk about our R all night, which was nice. just talked about his new job, my job, our families, other things we had going on...for a minute i almost forgot we were separated! so that felt good that we could do that and be comfortable and laugh and joke with each other. i met up with a girlfriend at a bar after we had dinner and he dropped me off there. it was hard to get out of the car, i was having such a nice time with him i could have stayed all night. he did kiss me goodbye, which also felt good. i'm glad i met up with my friend because i ended up having a really good time, met some nice new people...

i think in a few of the previous comments that OTM was trying to point out that TLR method may not be right for me because my H isn't saying the D word right now. we are physically separated, but we are in contact pretty much every day (he is calling, texting, emailing), there is no other person for either of us, my H is seeking IC, i'm talking to a coach...so, like i said in my earlier post, i'm taking some of TLR methods that i feel apply in my situation and others i'm not using because i don't think they would be helpful or my H has not responded well to them.

i'm also working very hard to better understand the ADHD mind, because my H's brain is just wired in a totally different way than mine is and that means i also have to be somewhat cautious about the methods i use in moving forward - he may interpret something i say or do in a totally different way than i had intended and it could set me back or inflict negative emotions on him.

but. you guys are all helping me so much, i find myself thinking about the advice i've gotten here while i'm interacting with my H. last night at dinner i sat across the table from him and though, you know, i'm really enjoying this and it's so great to be here with him, but i would be ok if i had to live without this, too.

off to pack!