No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[Hope4us]

Bond, You came on my thread and asked for my take and I came over here and gave it. You can do with it what you will. It's my OPINION based on what worked for me.

Now for a short thread jack.

25MLC. Read what I wrote above. Bond came on my thread and asked for my take. I'm not going to defend what I did and what I didn't do. But I will defend telling my kids. You can think it's punitive all you want, but both of my kids THANKED me for telling them the truth. Might not be DB but the TRUTH isn't what causes damage in ANYTHING. I was going to file for divorce and I would not allow my kids to think I thought my W and I divorcing was what we BOTH thought was best for everyone involved. They needed a STABLE parent and at that time, my W wasn't. And I know that doesn't fit YOUR idea of what anyone should do, but I'll post here until the Mods tell me I can't, not you. I also have talked to MC's and read a lot of books written by MC's who specialize in Infidelity and some of them support exposure and some of them don't. A couple of them I've read support telling kids as young as 7, in an age appropriate manner.

Bond, You have any more questions for me, I'll be glad to answer them. Just like everyone else on these boards, you're free to do with it what you will.