No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

25yearsmlc,

Thanks for the clarification.

For H4U's story, I wasn't planning to do the exposure thing. In fact, I basically told my W I had forgiven her for it over a year ago. I think more than anything I was "expecting" an apology from her or some kind of remorse. I never got them. That's when I realized that it really was up to me to "get over" what she did on my own. It was hard and I did the best I could through detachment. But of course the thoughts would come in every now and then since she still worked with the OM.

I was interested in his interactions that drew her closer to him. I know in both out instances, trust is a big issue. I do believe that she is much more receptive to something since the OM is leaving, but what that thing is, I don't know. Like his sitch, I think it will take awhile for her to forget about the OM (if she ever does). So right now I'm playing it by ear.

"How long do you think you can hang in there at this rate? Did your w say anything about a recon in the past? If so, what?"

Right now I'm playing it by ear. I never thought I would last one year much less 2. I'm just taking things a day at a time. She has never mentioned anything about a recon. The closest was about 4 weeks ago when we had gone to my friend's house for her party. I invited her to come and she went, although she kept to herself.

She later told me that it was a "big thing" for her. In what way I'm not sure. I think if I would have asked her, she would have changed the subject. I just wanted her to dwell on it a bit.

Right now since interactions with my W has been positive, I don't consider myself in limbo. I mean, I do what I want to do, I'm learning every day, healthier, got goals, etc. But what I want to do is to continue the positive trend with my W and not go backwards.

That's what my questions are. What should I do from here to keep the positives going? Patience is key and it does bother me that it has taken so long at times.