and the thing I forgot to say ... I wonder if that's how your wife sees you? So embued in duty that she doesn't have to try ... you'll stick with it no matter what ....
Women need a bit of a challenge to bring their best game. For me, certainly, that challenge, that desire to "engage" my partner so he's there out of something more than duty is the greatest aphrodesiac.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
