I think it may just be worse than the divorce being final...I kept hearing that when they get their divorce they then have time to figure out that didnt make their problems go away and u have every hope against hope ( based on what you thought you had with them ) that they will wake up, tire of the OW, tire of all the lies and get a clue --- but when they remarry the same women they left you for, it feels like a plan they had all along.....and as far as the kids....mine didnt tell me.....long story but even after i found out about the engagement, I think there was effort put into my x to make me believe the wedding was going to be in the summer...who knows why.....it all feels like it doesnt matter and all of your married life previously feels like a lie....it all hits again...and u wonder ..am I normal??? what is wrong with me...why am I not one of those people that hear about OW and are kicking them to the curb...I truly never thought about this situation happening to us...but imagine if it had ....that would have been me....so here I am.....moving on and forward....thinking ...what happened ? Pretty sure I will never ever really get it....
