Yes Eric, the one thing you will always have to do is work on yourself...you have to become the person YOU want to be with...

We all make mistakes....it happens.

So detaching is for YOU...no one has the real answers...your wife will either come back or she won't. you gotta be okay with either way. Or you make a stand on one side of the fence. This may not be popular here.

Funny you should talk about the mirror...I remember one night sending a text to my X asking him why he didn't love me anymore and he said: look in the mirror.

I had to really look and see what was good and what was not...it was very difficult. However, I did it...and I made some changes...am STILL changing...I like who I am today much more than then.

Are you strong? I have no idea...but you will find out. At the end of the day...you will find that you are indeed strong...so much more than you could have imagined.

Keep sharing my friend...

Valentine

Aug '06: H moved out
July '08: H had a kid with the OW
May 12 '09: emancipation day

"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller