One thing I learned in my journey is words do not meen anything to the WAW, only actions do. I would do the therapy or see your family physician (my preference) and get treatment for the anxiety that you cannot handle for yourself. She will notice the changes and wonder what has happened to you. You will appear more confident and more appealing. Being a man means taking care of business, and with you treating your anxiety is taking care of business. Taking care of business is very attractive to a woman.
Changes are for you, the waste product on the backend of the equation just might be your wife taking a second look at you, regardless you will be better off for the future.
