Funny though...the cycle IS pretty predictable, and even you are realizing it now.
Just to put another thought in your head...every time she lashes out at you, and you handle it without lashing back, a positive deposit is made.
Those deposits do add up, even if we don't see it or believe it.
When you handle these situations with calmness, truth, not wussing out and giving in but also not trading tit for tat, it sends the message that you have you squared away. And it says that you are doing that thing that the WAS so often NEEDS to see (though they will never, until the very end, tell us they need) - the LBS remaining the rock in the relationship.
Isn't it odd how you can be the soothing voice when she is messed up inside?
You can't convince me that there is not positive in that.
You sound strong. That's awesome.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
