So nice to come back from a LOOOOONNNNNGGGG day and see so many friends here being supportive and having some great chats and vents. Just like the old days.
Happy - you know my REAL name (from email). Just look me up on Facebook. There might be 2 but of course I live in Canada. Then you will see where to click on to Send a Friend Request. THen I get it an accept it. I can then put you in touch with those DB friends that I am friends with if you choose.
I want to clarify something here. Some of you know my sister, Leenie (Colleen) from this board. She is NOT the sister I was talking about. She DOES "get" what I'm talking about. Her ex is a deadbeat too. In fact - Fig - he reminds me of your deadbeat exes. He does not work. Does not see his kids. Does not pay support. Has lost everything.
Our other sister is a good person but she has not been through what we have been through. She has a good job, nice house, great, supportive husband, 2 healthy kids. Yet - of the 3 sisters - guess which one is prone to breakdowns, lashing out, takes ADs etc. The one with no real problems at all! And preach she does. She bit me twice recently for sending her forwards. One was a horoscope! Just a really funny, cute horoscope - but ahhh - work of the devil! Everything you write to her is turned into a preaching opportunity. They do not "live". I don't think that is how God wanted us to enjoy our lives. I am not a Heathen. I do a lot of good for others - try to be supportive, do a lot of charitable work, try to treat others as I would like to be treated. And this to me is most important. But not enough to my sis.
Sometimes my ex is a jerk - yes CHUCK is a jerk (Donna - maybe it IS the name). Beyond a jerk. If you haven't experienced this - you just cannot imagine. Any more than anyone who hasn't raised a seriously disabled child with extreme health crisis can understand. But none of us has the same life.
BND - My son, at 19 also confronted maggot (OW) who was "living" with my ex 2 weeks after we split! She told him they were "in love and wanted to spend the rest of their lives together" - yep 2 months after we celebrated our 25th. Then she tried to take out a restraining order on my son (who is totally non violent) so he would never again disturb their "love nest". What a gem!
Anyway, I ramble.
Sometimes it seems the more I do - the more I get kicked. UGH!
I hold tight to the fact I've built a new life. I'm working towards the life I really want. And I have a supportive, loving man I am sharing it with. He has absolutely no idea how Chuck can treat us all so bad. He thinks we're wonderful. (yes - even Ashley and her "difficult" growing up stuff).
And I ramble on. But you all "get it" - don't you?
