Hi pearharbr, Yes it sounds like OW has a pattern.
My SO wrote the goodbye email the day I found out, 2 months ago. OW keep trying to contact and call after that. Nothing the last couple weeks. Ya, I get the power thing, not there yet. Lots of thoughts about her, why her,etc. I know GAL will help with this, need to get on it. I feel so disconnected from my 'other' life since kids. I mean life has changed so much and I don't know how to do the balance, self-care and kids.
Funny, I never could relate to the Mom's on Oprah, prior to kids, who said they could not take time for self. I always understood self-care makes better parents. Now its me who has not taken care of myself.
Stupid night, had wine asked questions again. I don't drink much and I felt like I wanted to ask the questions that are the most hard for me. Why attracted to OW, questions about soul mate stuff, and other things I read in old emails. OW shares and than shuts down, angry with me for the questions. She feels like she never knows when they are coming. I don't know when they are coming.
I don't know when they are coming.