Two things I think I can add.
1. So sorry about your cat, we just put our dog down. And what I offer is brace yourself for any and all type of reaction from your H. I was surprised by how my WAS handled the situation...shows how much they change and how much they are not the person they were before. Don't read too much into anything he says or does right before/after you have to do that. I am so sorry, it is a rough time, we just went thru it.

2. Let me second what Hope4Luv says about the peace and quiet. My WAS tells me how much she relishes the peace and quiet and is completely dumb to how it can hurt me. Very good point there

M39 W41
Two children
WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09
Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10
No longer piecing...Nov 10
Separation Jan 11
EA ends again Feb 11
Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11