Well. Though things were calming down then BAM!

Called W last night to talk about our plans for Saturday and the Cub Scout Blue & Gold banquet. She basically said that she's down to the point where she doesn't have a reason to get out of bed in the morning, and she doesn't have anyone to lean on. Her stomach had been hurting for 24 hours, etc. Bottom line she's miserable and doesn't see any relief from it in the future.

(Recall here that OM has basically dumped her.)

I had intended for it to be a brief phone call, but we talked for over an hour, I made her laugh, etc. She said at one point that it was helping.

Honestly wasn't sure here if I should have gotten off the phone with her or not, but in the end my thinking was that, she's a human being and could use some cheering up.

So, I flew from CA to OR this morning for work - about 10-15 minutes before I got up to present to a big room full of people, W called me, cursed me out. She was upset about money - she has bills to pay, everything has to go through me now, it's like she's being treated like a child, she can't believe she made herself vulnerable to me (I guess last night), she's so mad at me now, etc. Then she hung up on me. I seriously think the only thing I said during the conversation was "hold on," "what's up," and "what do you need?"

So, when I got a chance, I transferred half the amount we'd been talking about for monthly support (assuming bi-monthly payments) into the joint account. Tried calling her back, ended up leaving a message and texting about it. Have tried calling throughout the day, but no answer.

Seriously, throughout this process, W has never hung up on me, has never not answered the phone, etc. I'm sure she's been busy through the day too, but still. And yeah, I know not to call repeatedly, but honestly this is the state in which she calls her lawyer to set up court dates, and I've wanted to talk her down.

I'm still in OR, flying back tonight - meetings are over though.

I'm not mad, not anxious really, just want to resolve this as calmly as possible. Frustrated, really. She's worked herself into a state that's not necessary. I wonder if she starts to feel closer then feels a need to demonize me. I tell you though, she's in a miserable state.