First of all - I'm totally with Dance Queen. Don't waste any of your energy on any more unavailable men. That's dumb and repeating a pattern you've identified and decided you don't want a part of.
It's not good enough to make choices in life just because they "feel good". It's not good enough to choose relationships on the basis that they tick one box (intimacy) but fail on all the other tests (availability, appropriateness etc). It’s really not good enough if you’ve identified it’s less than optimal – and you do it anyway. What’s that say about how much you value yourself sister?
A big part of growing up is learning to 'live consciously' (thanks Captain). Making decisions for ourselves based on all the information available to us and balancing the information against our values, goals and aspirations.
It’s OK to be alone too. You don’t need to have a man in your life all the time.
Make a fabulous life for yourself. Value your friends, your family, your career, hobbies, community services … all of those things. Invest in them … you might just find that while you’re busy living, a man worthy of you will notice … you don’t have to be out there hunting them ….
Good luck sister-girl … you’re on the path.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
