But how does filing first not mean the end of the marriage? It seems any chance at reconciliation would def be lost at that point. If she has been saying she wants a D aren't I just handing it to her on a silver platter (maybe even leaving her with a clear conscience since she was not the initiator?).
Quart,
2 1/2 years ago, while my wife was having an affair, I filed first.
Today we are reconciled, and celebrated together the birth of our first grandchild, a beautiful little girl.
Filing first does NOT necessarily mean the end of your marriage. It just means that you are WILLING to end the marriage AS IT HAS EXISTED UP UNTIL NOW, if that's what it takes, if your wife doesn't stop her destructive behavior.
