Thank you all for the advice and support. OP - I can do this..I just need to keep telling myself that. I know reacting based on how speaks to me or how he interacts with me is NOT GOOD for either of us. I felt like initially when he came over, that things were moving positively.

But I have to agree in thinking back to yesterday, LostforWords was right. I think he wanted to bait me because he is nice and amenable when I am not (in his mind) in his way. I will be nice and courteous and I will promise not to talk or ask questions at all. He seems to be anry about everything.

I feel like I was being "tested" yesterday.

I will detach and GAL and stay out of his way. He plans to move back on Sunday. I am going to keep myself busy that day and try and not be there when he arrives (but I hear there is another snow storm heading my way). I have dinner plans with a couple of girlfriends on Monday night, so that will be good to be out of the house when he gets home from work. I will continue to add daily events to my schedule so that to him, I am not even there.

My IC called while my H was at the house to check up on me. She is a good one!. I am meeting with her on Tuesday and I have my 1st DB Phone Coaching tomorrow morning.

Has anyone, if you wish to share, ever considered taking mediation to reduce the anxiety? I had an appt with my medical Dr today and he did prescribe medication, but I just don't want to depend on this to "be happy". He said I can use this for a short time, it depends on when I may need help when I am feeling anxious.





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