Valentine's Day was not a highlight of our time together, because he "forgot" it was Valentine's Day. I told him I didn't need a card, just effort, and he would have to be deaf, dumb and blind to have forgotten. It is on tv, in the paper, on the radio, and in every store you walk into.
He did take me to dinner, replaced my hard drive for me in my computer, does things with me every weekend, etc. Well, anyhow, I just focus on patience.
You are right KJ. He didn't "forget" it was Valentines Day. He isn't dear, dumb and blind. He is telling you that he doesn't feel that way about you.
He has been living in your house for 2 months now and still . . . . just friends. Is he just using you until wood burning season is over?
And you tell him, "I didn't need a card, just effort"? WTF? How much effort does it take to get a card?
Focusing on "patience" is getting you a truckload of sexual frustration and a 'husband' who sees you as mommy and/or a friend.
Time to shake things up girlfriend.
He leaves Sunday morning to spend a week and half with his parents in Florida. What would you suggest? Rape him in his sleep? Give him an ultimatum and watch him walk back out the door?
Believe me, Dudess, I am not a wimp and know what I am doing. I know my husband and I know me. The man that was totally withdrawn a year ago is not the man in the house now. Everyone has to do what works for them. It does not always mean strictly the DB script.
I am doing more of what works and less of what doesn't. Would I have loved to have had Valentines more romantic? Absolutely. Are things getting better? Definitely. Would I have wanted him to spend Valentines with someone else? Or alone? You can answer that.
My husband is at home. Hallmark didn't make any money on him this year, but I got something much better. I don't tell y'all everything you know.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
