Your explanation makes sense--I'm sorry you didn't have the experience of having a dad beyond age 3. Given that (I assume) you're unlikely to be doing any helicopter drops with guys in the near future, have you thought about what sorts of bonding experiences with men you might have in your current life?
In an earlier thread, you talked about wanting to go to a jazz club with a male friend, while leaving the responsibility for whether his wife felt comfortable with this completely in his hands. From what I read, this is not an acceptable boundary--if a woman wishes to befriend a MARRIED man (or a man to befriend a married woman), she needs to show respect for that person's partner by including her in the relationship as well. I'm not sure where the discussion on your earlier thread ended up, and quite likely you're aware of this necessary boundary, but I realized I forgot to add it earlier.
