I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[Quart9]

Thank you Gnosis for your reply. The L tried to get me to start the process yesterday. Mr. Bond also mentioned yesterday that she could hit me with a RO anyhow to prevent from paying me spousal support. Your three points make sense.

But how does filing first not mean the end of the marriage? It seems any chance at reconciliation would def be lost at that point. If she has been saying she wants a D aren't I just handing it to her on a silver platter (maybe even leaving her with a clear conscience since she was not the initiator?).

Yeah, I definitely would not tell her that I was going to do it before I did it. Should I talk to her once more though to see if there is any chance between us before I set the wheels in motion? Once she is served I go dark? For how long?