Its a whole new perspective to understand his aggression as fear based. Doesn't excuse the behavior, but calms the panic in me. all this stuff of me being scared he's hiding some big secret - the wild lifestyle comment, the reluctance to tell me where he's going on weekends, fearing an oW - it's all just out of his own fear of communicating and being vulnerable. Not an OW. I feel calmer and ok with independence. I don't take his rejection as personally. HOwever, I'm still going to be prepared with my answers to his nastiness. Just because I see where it's coming from doesn't mean I intend to take it.
