Getting Ready For Divorce

[crushed_v95]

I met with a recruiter today and got a conditional offer of employment in another town, about an hour away from the family home. It's close enough to commute to for a few weeks, but still far enough away to offer me some peace when I decide to make the great escape.

Wife likes to claim she's about to file for divorce, and she has swore up and down that she was going to file *any day now*, but I have no faith that this will happen. I suppose I'm in for a new apartment, furniture, and legal fees in the not too distant future. If the divorce is going to happen, it seems I am going to be the one to do it.

The new job is in another American state. Another question. I guess if I file I will still be considered a resident in the home state I'm in now even if I go live in the next state in the mean time. Home state is much more liberal (more gender equity, shared custody, better child support and protection laws, etc.) The other state makes it much harder to get a *no-fault* divorce. I have no strength to embarrass wife or fight with her over her nights out. I want it all over quickly.

I am a Canadian citizen, and that was a thought I had early on, to go home and file there. We were married there. Canada is the worst possible choice.

I can't believe all this has happened in the span of four days. I'm grateful to the author of DR and everyone here for giving me the strength to consider a better life for myself and my kids.