Thank you Sandi2 for your reply. Unfortunately, she has never really been flirty with me during this S and we haven't taken turns spending the night at each others place since I've moved out.

I made a mistake (I think) in thinking that marching back and hitting her with boundaries was protocol. Yes, I should have been more strict before I left and it does seem like it is too late for that now. I see what you are saying about having to start from ground zero if I tried to go back and do that now, plus I have always thought in the back of my mind that she would resent me rather than respect me for going back in unwelcomed.

It seems like I would be better served GAL and moving forward without her. She has told me before this is what she wants. It is hard for me to overcome the thought of doing this as it seems that this would lead to there being no chance at reconciliation between us - especially if I filed first.

Last edited by Quart9; 02/19/10 08:10 PM.

Me-32
W-29
No kids
ILYBNILWY 11.20.09
Separated 01.10.10
Discovered EA 01.13.10
W admitted to PA 02.21.10
I filed for D 03.09.10