Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[flowmom]

I'm starting an anger-managment thing next month so I can work on not reacting to her, but responding. Hoping I'm not just playing victim, I think I've been emotionally battered by her over the years. She has from me, too. If I didn't control her into counselling, there is no way I could've lived with her emotional unstability, never mind love her.

I think that you've both suffered a lot from the pain of cultural misunderstandings and mismatches. I still think that you need professional help with dealing with this stuff. I would recommend a social worker who is very familiar with your W's culture who could bridge your communication gaps. This may even be a free service for your family. There are services out there for immigrants...there must be so many couples here who are dealing with the same issues.