W picked up S2 tonight at daycare and was mad at me for dressing him this morning in a sports outfit. She thinks it is inappropriate to dress him in anything other than designer clothes and he has to be dressed to the 9's everytime he goes anywhere. I told her that I put him in the outfit b/c 1--it was clean and 2--I wanted to!
Anyways...today the little one had Valentine's day at daycare and he was the only one that did not have any V-Cards. Since we have done this "new" parenting plan W has had S2 on Wed and Thur for both pick up and drop off at daycare which is when they had it posted on the board about v-day. S2 was happy and brought home a bag with all of his candy and cards from his classmates and he got a v-card from every single one of his classmates. So S2 was the only kiddo there with nothing for his friends. For some reason that crushes me thinking that this is his life now, he will always be the one that is missing out and left out of things. Not so big of a deal at 2 but as he grows older that will be a huge deal.
I am kicking myself b/c in hindsight I should have known better I think, but I am a guy and this is my first rodeo with this stuff so I admittedly so am learning on the fly here....It hurts to think that W has her head so far up her own a** that now it is in real ways effecting our little boy who has done NOTHING to deserve this. Of course, W turned this around on me and said that I should have somehow known this and also somehow gotten v-day stuff to daycare even though it was not my turn to take him and had no knowledge of this.
I guess this is a learning lesson that I need to pick up my sensitivity shoes and try to think like mommy and daddy. I am not sure about that! Hope this weekend is better, although with all of the Valentine's crap out there it is looking like a downer weekend already. Snowing, low teens, rainy and not looking forward to spending v-day alone while W is out with OM and just happily moving on........
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
I will be back later with something more positive but for now I just wanted to say that this last weeekend----sucked. I am glad it is over and do not care if another Valentine day ever comes again. I also understand that this is not the best PMA that I can have at the moment but tough.
The whole weekend while W was away with OM and partying it up I felt "stuck" at home snowed in and mostly ALONE. I am not good at alone and need to get better at it obviously.
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Does the daycare have internet? Do they post stuff like newsletters on a website, or can one of the workers there send you e-mail with info like the V-day party?
Well, I am back and wish I was more positive, but I cannot muster it tonight. I will just chalk it up to a bad day and learn from it and move on.
W is very much in attack mode and ready to jump on any little thing that she sees. I wish I had a camera crew here so that someday I could show her how she is acting, it is absolutely childlike....
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Got back from being on a business trip all week last night only to find out that W decided to "go out" with S2 who I had not seen all week. She stayed out way past bedtime and than came home and tried to rush past and put him to bed without letting me see him.
When I told her to stop and I would at least lay him down for bed she actually told me "no, he is already up later than he needs to be he just needs to go and lay down" and than she went and put him into her bed which has been a big cause of grief lately. NO KIDDING HE IS UP LATE BECAUSE OF YOU!
This is just getting even worse, I have heard of the roller coaster but that usually means there are ups and downs, so far I only have had downs where are the ups?
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
How bad is it that I am jealous of your 1 up!?? It is very dis-heartening to see in almost everyone's situation even if they do not make it there at least seems to be a moment when the WAS regrets or at least apologizes for what is happening.
It might not lead to repairing the M but at least others have gotten "something" It seems my W is even more cruel than most. She has never felt bad, sad, remorse, guilt, shame, anything. More importantly she has never felt any desire to TRY in regards to the M.
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
I guess I am the exception to the rule. I got an apology once for all she had done. However it was basically withdrawn the next day once the alcohol had worn off and the OM had made up to XW for being an ass. Kinda meant nothing after that.
