Right number one youre not stupid! You didnt see it coming but you sure will next time (())

Go write "I will not pick at things" and "I cannot fix things" on a piece of card and stick them in your wallet so that when you feel tempted read them over and over again and hear all your DB mates calling "dont do it" until you can stop yourself lol!

Honestly give her some space its so important I can say that as I had a degree in Badgering it doesnt work believe me.. its so much easier to walk away and let H work it out for himself, its his headache after all.

Might be a good time to write a list of your 180's on here again, remind yourself of how far you have come.. tbh you sound a lot like my H easy going, and probably just a bit too nice, but with my worry/panic tendancies. Dont beat yourself up tomorrow is another day and she is still there!

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W 47
H 47
M 24
T 30

Once lost but now found and happily married again!