OTMT, I have trouble understanding you.

You don't need a love meter. You need to be a man of action when it comes to loving. You've read this before in this thread, but love is a choice.

You love her more because she gives into your divorce plan? I'm getting really mixed messages from you. On one hand you despise her for her submissiveness, but on the other hand, you love her when she submits? Are you working on control issues in IC? That's what I'm picking up as a big issue for you.

I apologize if I'm being hard on you. I've noticed that I tend to have harder reactions with the guys in the forum because I have more trouble relating.

I know I've recommended a lot of books to you, but given your choice to become a father of 5 children with this woman, I think this would be worth reading:

http://www.amazon.com/Imperfect-Harmony-Married-Children-Still/dp/031228974X

My H ordered it the day that he told me how hopeless he was feeling about our M. I wonder if he read it...


me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4
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