How do I expose the affair

[flowmom]

mb, I am concerned about you. You're getting good advice on how to deal with the A, but I'm concerned that exposing the A is becoming an unhealthy preoccupation for you. Exposing the A, doing dark, etc. isn't going to "work" if you are not GAL.

I'm on the road with you feeling like my thoughts and obsessions are torturing me and that my whole world revolves around my sitch. But I am forcing myself to GAL. Yesterday I went for a run and listened to Buddhist teachings, then had tea with a girlfriend last night. Tonight I'm going downtown with an old friend to brave the crazy downtown Olympics crowds to drink in some of the spirit of the event.

What are you going to do today to GAL?

Posting about your GAL activities in your thread will likely get fewer responses than posting about A-busting strategies, but you have to decide what DBing looks like for you right now.

If a mutual friend told your H about your life right now, would s/he be able to report that you are GAL, and would what he heard make him think that you are moving on with your life? I'm struggling a lot with things, but my friends would tell my H that I am GAL and that he should not take it for granted that I'll be waiting around for him to come to his senses. I'm not trying to compare our sitches because I'm not dealing with an A, but I know that we mothers probably have greater-than-usual challenges with GAL and I want to encourage you in that.