the word is out

[Lost Rabbit]

Hi LR-thanks for the hugs! Luckily, I am busy today with work and grandkids tonight and nieces birthday tomorrow so will help to keep my thoughts busy!

Well what ever happens now you need to know you are worth it and if your H doesnt see that well its his loss! Im pleased to hear you have things to occupy you and keep your mind off some of the painful things

Unfortunately, H does not have access to email at this time. I sure hope he will in the future as I would think it'd be easier for communication during and after the D.That is a pain but you could state for your peace of mind that you wish only to be contacted by email and give him an address, put in a letter so its as inpersonal as he is being

Am having some remorse right now at contacting OW's church. Haven't heard anything back yet and lol, I sure hope I emailed the right one!!!

The things I want to ask H-

Ok hard to hear because some of this you know its just hard to face on your own, but believe me hearing him say it wont make it any less painful

Why divorce papers in the mail? Why couldn't you have talked with me and given me some kind of warning? We have been together for 17 years and I am not the one that caused issues in our M to deserve to be treated this way. Right you dont need to ask this you know the answer why would you want him to rub it in your face! Divorce papers in the mail (hes too chicken to give them to you himself cos he knows what he is doing is wrong) Why after 17 years, (because he has shut down and stopped sharing his life with you, he is no longer M in his eyes) Painful bit! You are not the ones who caused the issues ( Sorry but you are as much to blame as him how ever you look at it, but only accept 50% of the blame and apportion the rest to him)

I want to tell him that he lost any respect and credibility that I had left for him. You dont need to tell him this he will find out soon enough

What is the hurry? Are you being pressured? (I simply can't imagine him jumping into another M right away, but a lot has happened that I didn't imagine) Hang on you didnt imagine him doing any of this and believe me neither did I, my H cant believe I thought so badly of him at times in his opinion, it was more that I was no longer surprised by his behaviour so no longer ruled things out. Even if he told you he was being pressurised would that give you a better opinion of him, no I dont think so, what poor ickle H is being bullied by OW so much he has left his W and kids and doesnt intend on behaving like a H/M anymore, now how do you feel about him?

What was with the kiss a couple of weeks ago? Were you testing to see if there was still any spark between us?
Cake eating so dont let him do it anymore, you will not share him with any other woman end of subject, get your respect out and use it girl!

I want him to explain to me WHY he thinks his life will be so much better away from his family? He has not given me anything except "I don't knows" and I want to hear some reasons, hurtful or not. Truthful or not...I just want him to have to explain! Dont go there hun, you wont like what you hear, its all gonna be garbage, words from a man in la la land, in alien terroritory, as they say believe little of what they have said or even less of waht they have done

I want him to admit to the children that he loves someone else and that is why he is leaving. I have read conflicting things on this but I think they are old enough to know and they will figure it out here soon anyway when he starts bringing her around them. I want to throw up thinking about her being around my kids.Personally I think the kids are old enough to have an explanation from their dad, certainly make sure you are present so he doesnt try and pin blame on you, might be an idea to put a post out about how to handle this as it wasnt something I had to do!

Last what ever happens from now on in hun we are all around here even the other side of the world to stick by you and support you through this as best we can. Chin up you can do and come out the other side a better woman, just keep telling yourself its his loss and put your best foot forward. Last but not least although I agree you should let her pastor know who ever he might be, bet that made you feel daft emailing the wrong bloke lol!